My family and I have been going through a challenging time this past month, due to the passing of my wife’s mom. When faced with difficult situations, I take comfort in finding some sense of order or predictability in them.
As I’ve been watching us go through this type of sadness and grief that is unique to losing such an important person in our lives, I’ve also noticed the structural adjustments in the family, which aren’t so unique. I’m talking about when any group gains or loses a member, there’s an adjustment period where everyone figures out how the group will now interact based on these changes.
You can see a great example of this by watching a group of dogs in a dog park. Anytime someone joins or leaves the pack, there’s a recalibration – figuring out the pecking order, deciding to be serious or playful, etc. Humans could take a few tips from the dogs, as they’re incredibly efficient at this process and they do it quite naturally.
This is the same process all of us go through whenever someone joins or leaves our company – But we’re not as efficient as the dogs. It takes us a little bit longer to decide who is now going to be doing what, who’s in charge of who, who is better in which areas, etc. These changes happen quite regularly in business and it’s in our best interest to just know they’re coming, take them with a grain of salt, and recalibrate.
Losing a loved one feels quite differently than a dog joining the pack or an employee leaving the company. Grief is a very unpredictable process and it helps me to know there are some known variables involved as well. Regardless of the circumstances, I try to remind myself that change is an opportunity -- To trust there’s a reason and that something good will always come from that.
Thanks for your business and make it a great day!